Who Should I Follow
After gaming less and less, I felt kind of lost in the real world. All of the classic questions kept popping up: What should I do with my life? What’s really important to me?
You see, up until then, my focus had been on gaming with my friends, so I’d just drifted along in RL, doing what I had to do in order to sustain my gaming. But later, as RL came more into focus, I didn’t feel certain about which steps to take to improve my situation.
When choosing a path to follow, I still think the best idea is to follow your own path. However, how can a person do that when they don’t know where they are, or what direction they even roughly want to go in? Perhaps having a baseline to start from might be useful. No one should tell you what you should do with your life, but some people want advice about these things, and a little help from others who have “been there and done that”. I don’t know your own unique situation, but I can share some general guidelines which helped me find a better path:
* When you find your thoughts in that quiet undefined place, where you can feel what is right and what is wrong, the best path presents itself. I can’t define it any better than that, but you’ll really know when you know.
* Before you get to that aforementioned quiet place, be very careful of the noise of the world infecting your mind with fear. Whenever I’ve let fear guide me, I’ve typically sought out too much safety and stability. Seeking out a reckless lifestyle obviously isn’t the best idea, but attempting to cocoon oneself inside a shell of mediocrity, may well result in a crying soul.
* Doing work which pays well, but doesn’t really help anyone or provide anything useful to society, will likely leave you feeling empty. Whenever I’ve focussed on myself too much, I’ve always had an empty soul.
*If there is a “trick to happiness”, I’d say it’s to serve others in a way which makes you “feel whole”.
Apologies if this advice has been too general or unhelpful. Perhaps at the core of the problem of “who to follow”, is that every person eventually needs to follow their best selves, and also avoid telling others how to live their lives. It might just be another one of those questions which can’t really be answered, except by yourself.